There is no difference between you and Elon Musk, the only difference is founder-trauma fit.

I’ve come to realize that the biggest determinants of “trainable” attributes which can correlate to excellence in any field is trauma. 

Trauma can be good or bad, but in this analogy we can speak about childhood trauma, where you had no control over your up bringing — hint hint.

Note: Trauma is neither good or bad, its a state of changing effect.

Humans have an amazing ability to be super computers between the ages of 1-7, it’s where the brain is in theta mode. Here is when the OS of who we are is forged, and how we then perceive the world from 7-24.

Some of us, through the nurturing events in childhood can lead us to experience things which put strain onto our nervous systems in ways which cause stress, pain and so on — our nervous system remembers more than the brain. This sort of trauma leaves us more hyperactive/aware because our bodies were put into a fight or flight mode at a younger age, thus, requiring us to develop parts of the brain which correlate respectively to survive.

You’ll hear some ppl say they are "empath’s", meaning they can read emotion, or are sensitive to emotions in a room. Turns out, they just were more hyper aware than others because they were immersed in scenarios where external conflict arose which they felt part of the issue, I.e. parents constantly fighting about them, or that they could trigger events like that.

The same example can be said about love, where you’ll hear things about how children with divorced parents are more likely to divorce themselves, or the classic she got "daddy issues." 

It all stems from childhood, and how we correlate trauma into our fabric of reality.

Let’s take the framework of the classic avoidant, secure, and xyz relationship types. Those who grew up with healthy parents, and experienced a healthy childhood would know when to recognize healthy relationships. The opposite can be said for those who were ignored, hurt, or abused. As a child, how do you know what love means? You believe though whatever happens, your parents must love you right? So this, is what love must feel like — which is engrained into you. This makes red flags feel green, and green flags feel red… I.e. we “feel” this is what we experienced as a child, thus, must be love although it hurts us because it is not real.

To solidify this, let’s first understand that our brains do not control our actions. They help execute our intent which is controlled by what I call the perception of you. 

Imagine that you are a computer. Your brain is the screen in which you interact with, your neck the HDMI cable to connect with your body, which is the operating hardware (OS) system .

During your early 0-7 years to install your operating system (OS) which is coded into your body. The installed apps ("feelings") such as hunger were taught to you when you first “felt” (but didn’t know) hunger and you ate food (now OS knows, eat = no hunger), shyness was installed because you “felt” uncomfortable one time in a public setting, and admins (your parents or authority figure) said you must be a "shy kid" thus, you associate/label shy with the feeling you had felt and so on. So how do we react to this OS? All of these feelings get translated from code from the body and through our neck to our brain (the Screen), where we play images to clearly understand. Although, they are not our thoughts, but perceptions of what we think we need. E.g. hunger = picture of pizza, and shyness = imagining what shy is and how we act, and so on.

It’s really important to realize here that none of this is real, but our perceptions. Thus, your brain is 100% reprogram-able with counter trauma.

This same concept can be applied to manifestations, which is not literally wishing into existence for something to come true but that we reprogram our subconscious minds to upgrade our OS, like a external hard drive but without the trauma to really push it natively to our brains. These manifestations over time make you see things subconsciously and to pick paths for you that you don’t yet recognize, and with the right amount of consistency you will build a mental map on how to get to your desires. 

Now, you know what it’s like for a founder. We navigate this journey fueled by a sense of self purpose and a desire to make an impact within ourselves, and the world because of the trauma we specifically faced. Founders feel at home within the unknown because uncertainty or risk was natively installed. Despite the challenges, we press on because we believe in our intrinsic mission and our innate drive to find love and significance.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk